Yes, I knew that dating a divorced man with two children might be complicated, but just knowing that he did want to have more kids meant overcoming the first hurdle of considering a relationship with him.
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Over the next 6 months, we encountered were a lot with hurdles, hookups for unfortunately led to the relationship breaking down. Having dated divorced menI'd always wished there was some kind of dating advice to help me navigate this particular situation.
Divorced, from experience, I now know what not to do and the mistakes to avoid. Even though he said he wanted man, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs. He already had two children and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind.
Instead, confront your situation head-on if you do want kids with a divorced guyespecially if he has children already. To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path. It felt like I was in a relationship with both of them. He would talk about her all the time. This would cause a lot of tension and would then be transferred into our relationship, which kids a lot of stress on both of us. Make sure you take things slowly. Figure out whether this divorced man is the right person for you.
Keep man options open. By moving in together within the first monthwe both took on a lot.
I took on the new responsibility of not only getting used to living with him but also being introduced to his children. In addition, he doubled his commuting time, which added more stress to the plate. If we had taken our time, things wouldn't have fallen apart so quickly as they did.
We both needed time to adjust to our new roles, which we didn't do. Remember: dating is a time for fun, not for seriousness. Make sure that you are both in a financial situation that you can do fun stuff together. Because he dating paying for his kids and didn't earn a huge pay check, this limited what we could do with our time together.
I really wanted to travel divorced lot more, so when I did, I would travel on my own as he had other with commitments. If he did travel with me, I would willingly pay for him. However, men being men, he wanted to pay and this would frustrate "kids," and also frustrate me that he couldn't.
If dating income and financial situations had been similar, we wouldn't have had this problem. Make sure you make time for the relationship when you are dating.
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This may sound really obvious, but you would be surprised at how "life" can get in the way, especially if he has kids. This one was a big one for us both as he worked night shifts, making it challenging to see each other.
Also, most weekends he wanted to see the children, which meant there were weekends we spent apart. It's normal that he prioritized the children. I wouldn't have expected anything less, but it definitely put a strain on our time here together.
Learn from my mistakes.
Marina Pearson is an effortless living coach, international speaker, blogger, and best-selling author of "Goodbye Mr Ex. Marina Pearson.
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