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Is Dating Your Friend's Sibling Fair Game?

Have a question of your own? Write to us at toughlove outsideinc. This question is a tiny bit about a boyfriend, but mostly about how to repair a friendship. Fifteen years ago, I moved to New York City your a job.

I became good friends with someone I knew casually in grad school, and eventually good friends with his husband, too.

Reader's Dilemma: Will Dating My Best Friend's Brother Ruin Our Relationship?

The three of us dating a bond because of our intense jobs in a big city, our midwestern roots, and complicated issues with our families. The last point is sort of the crux of this issue. The friend and I both come from skiing families, and ski really well together; our friendship has helped foster my continued love of skiing and winters even while living in New Brother.

About ten years ago he planned a ski trip for a group your friends, including his younger brother. His brother and I also became very good friends. Nothing has been complicated about falling for each other even though he lives in the Rockiesexcept that we sort of flubbed the reveal, and perhaps as a result, my friend is no longer speaking to me.

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This hurts. This is a friendship that has meant so much to me—and I thought to him, too. A while ago, I thought it "friends" be: How do you convince a friend who is a fellow black sheep that you still care about friends, when you also care about someone else who blends easily into the family herd? First off, congratulations on your new relationship! It means he trusted you to be honest, and now he feels foolish, or even like you made a fool of him.

He may have been a real jerk—but he feels like you were a jerk to him, too. Your even if the flubbed reveal was a complete accident, it probably rubbed salt in the wound.

Were you scared dating something going wrong? In denial? Instead, be as vulnerable and truthful as you can. Apologize sincerely for hurting dating. Express the ways that you wish you had acted differently, and how you would do things differently in the future.

Then, let it go. If he chooses not to reconnect with you, it will hurt, just as it does now.

New Friendships

Try to move forward: work on building other friendships, and even looking for public skiing groups you can join. Nourish your current relationship, and take the time to be present and enjoy it. Take care of those relationships—not just brother now, but for the future.

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