By fer4ret Dating 24, in General Discussion. I am a relatively new convert, April Last May on my birthday, I turned I was told to continue my journey to perfection that I should be married. I also need to be married to be considered for any higher calling positions in the LDS Church. I truly desire to be married to a proper LDS woman.
At this time, the church provides little support to those single persons who are fit over in 50 plus age group, who are actively seeking a spouse.
This demographic will continue to increase as many members mature.
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What sort of support were you hoping the church would provide? There are singles' groups for various ages. It is because you are in Pennsylvania. See the other thread regarding "mission field Mormons". As a church, there is a lot of focus on singles. They will have a calendar of events. You are lds numbered with single females. I seriously doubt you will have a problem for long. You might try a road trip out west and attend church a few Sundays. Make yourself known while you are there.
Yes, marriage is an important way to learn life lessons, and yes, we believe an exalted man is one who among other things is married. So if you want to be married, then you want a good thing. As pkstpaul noted, the numbers are greatly in your favor. Cue "the odds are good, but the goods are odd" singles As for the "higher callings" lds, as your brother I would urge you to forget about such things. Our callings are how the Lord would have us serve each other.
In that sense, there are no "higher" and "lower" callings, only inspired callings. I have often thought that the best punishment for any man who wants to be a bishop is to make flower boy dating agency one, while simultaneously dating uk that one of the best indications that a man is unfit to be a bishop is if he wants the calling.
I feel your pain and understand your frustration I am in the same age range, a convert of four years, and have found no support from the church for us "older" singles.
I hear the same from my contemporaries. It is disheartening that the church doesn't recognize the sincere desire of those of us at this age who still desire to find our eternal companion The most common response I get is that I should just abandon that thought and wait for the next life. But I'm kind of stubborn, so I refuse to give up!
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I kind of have to agree with the OP myself. Being in that age range as a single I don't find a lot of support or activities for the older set of people. I always hear of activities for the mid singles but never for those who are over. My stake has a FHE for singles in that age range but only women in the 60's and 70's seem to participate see more it.
No men. I went one time and have never been back.
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It was more a gripe session with a "woe is me" tone. Presently, I live in eastern Pennsylvania with no immediate desire to move west. There are few single women in the 50 plus age group available in my stake.
To clarify my intentions for service, currently I am proudly serving as my Bishop's Secretary. I do not wish a calling as a Bishop however there are other callings where I am excluded due to my lack of spouse.
I am seriously seeking a good LDS woman for a wife. Where can I find support in finding a compatible woman? The onlly thing we have is a monthly senior singles home study which is at someone else's home someone volunteers their home. And lesson. So we do get couples who come out also. The missionaries have also been of a mind to help, but were just not skillful in coming up with a good match. I think the problem is that anyone who has a candidate to offer to you or me only has one candidate.
Sorry, our service isn't available in your region.
And it is not a 'one size fits all' situation. Maybe our ratio men to women is not so good in Los Angeles. Maybe that's another reason I should move click Utah.
But again, small town? There are probably 3 candidates, and that's it. More info about your age difference when considering someone to date. The worst she can do is say "No", but if you don't ask her I pointed out a divorcee who was probably years younger than he was, and told him to ask her for a date.
They did date abit, but she already had a boyfriend. This is going to be someone who has already gotten past the dating age of thirty five singles so. An older man offers stability and maturity that she will find attractive. On a March, Saturday night a few months back, I was at Penn's Peak, located in the Pocono Mountains of eastern Pennsylvania, in the snowstorm with friends for a concert by a Bruce Springstein cover band.
The music was great. They played for two and one half hours straight! It was such a great experience! All my close friends that night were married or were with their significant other. Sadly I had to sit there alone. The one thing that would have made it a perfect night would have been someone like you to dance with to all that good music.
The snow was still falling when we left. I did not make it home until after 2 AM. The ride home was so cold even with the heated seats; I wished I had someone to cuddle as I sat in the back seat alone. All my friends and I still made it to church on Sunday. We are a hearty lot when it comes to partying but also devoted when it comes to God. After a certain "age," our society just assumes you are married or you have a significant other for just about everything from dinner or the theater.
I find it so annoying to go alone to even a dating dinner, and they assume that. We are not societies broken people.
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We are just alone! I'm singles that most mature people would lds insulted or unhappy if the church did anything to encourage them to marry. Tell the RSP that you are looking for a spouse, and would like her to tell the sisters you are and ask them to pass the info along to their friends and relatives and the sisters who VT, including in other wards, who are over for a spouse.
But anyone who wants to serve as bishop or any other of the callings that require a spouse, is just plain nuts. So if that is really why you are looking and that is really what you are after, don't expect many faithful women who have been in the church long enough to know just how crazy that desire is, to be interested. Singles to work on being committee to serve wherever the Lord needs you to serve. Lots of men who have served in over callings would gladly take nursery. And there is a huge need for men in scouting.
And why lds, while you are at it, take someone you know would lds it who you dont intend to marry to be your companion for the theater and other such things. Plenty of single women who would love a night out, even if they aren't thinking over getting married or looking to do that. I served as the scoutmaster of my local troop until last January.
I had knee replacement surgery and I dating no longer kneel to build a fire or even drive tent stakes. I now still serve on the scout committee. I am also the male click the following article person for the older single adults in my ward.
I made my needs and interests known to the relief society and the ward at large as a speaker for older single adults in a presentation last Dating. Nothing happened, so I have explored those avenues of finding a good LDS wife in my ward and stake.
Being divorced from a childress marriage, I have absolutely no skills in dealing with nursery age children. Emotionally, I am better equipped to deal with with feral animals and snakes rather than a human infant. Not pain like a stab wound or gun shot wound, but continue reading an inconvenience, like one leg or arm missing.
That's not to say I'm going for the first available lady my age, I'm dating. I'm far too picky selective. I do know of people who have died alone, at night, having been afflicted by some medical condtiion with no click to see more to help them or call I have become so adjusted and accepting of being single that when I do meet the right one, it will be extremely difficult singles accomodate the click here life.